What keeps abuse victims in the abusive relationships that oppress them so severely?
Confusion: Why has this happened? I must have caused it.
Helplessness: How do I get out? There’s no way out so I must deserve to stay.
Loneliness: No one will ever understand because surely this has never happened to anyone but me. I’m all alone. It’s my shameful secret.
Shame: I can’t tell people how I’m being treated; it’s embarrassing, shameful; something must be wrong with me….
All of these are arguments we have and things we tell ourselves when we’re in an abusive relationship. It’s like a whirlpool that at any moment threatens to suck us under.
But let me tell you, sweet friends, this is not your fault.
Furthermore, this is not your shame to bear.
I’ve come across some thoughtful articles in my research this week that I’d love to share with you.
I Speak for the Woman Bound in Shame
The Secret Shame of Domestic Violence (Even celebrities suffer as victims as well as being the victimizers).
Healing the Wounds of Emotional Abuse
If you hear me on anything, hear this:
You are not alone & there is hope!
Be encouraged, for you are enough,
