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letting go when you think you can't
Abuse and Self Care, Healthy Relationships

Letting Go When You Think You Can’t

When you have a relationship with someone, they become part of your story. And when that relationship ends – especially if it’s abruptly and without answers – you’re left reeling…wanting those answers, needing closure. It’s the “needing closure” and answers part that keeps us stagnant. It impairs our ability to move on into a healthy relationship. Or to move on at all.

But what if you find yourself unable to get away from the “why” and “what if” and “what did I do wrong?” questions that bounce around in your mind? Here are five things to try that might help you move onward into better places with greater people. Continue Reading

June 6, 2018
7 Years and a Happy Continuing
Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

Seven Years and a Happy Continuing

It’s been seven years since my first husband violently assaulted me at gunpoint and then took his own life with that gun, forcing me to witness it.

You’d think seven years, inching ever closer to the decade point, would erase a lot of memories, anxiety, PTSD, and sadness. And it does. But it doesn’t release me from all of it. As the weeks got closer to this “anniversary”, I could feel my body remembering it was close. I started having unpleasant dreams again, anxiety, restless sleep, and then Continue Reading

April 18, 2018
5 signs you're in an unhealthy relationship
Abuse and Self Care, Healthy Relationships

5 Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship

5 Signs You’re in an Unhealthy Relationship

When I was dating my first husband, there were red flags that I didn’t really understand or know how to deal with. As an empath, I was “attracted” to the fact that he sadly didn’t have a happy family and had had a pretty difficult upbringing. He was broken. I was a natural “fixer” and peacemaker. And that combination was a horrible match-up.

Even though I wrote about the signs of healthy relationships, there’s more to unhealthy relationships than simply the absence of those positive things. Some elements might be hints of danger, even though you might not think of them that way at first blush.  Continue Reading

March 25, 2018
5 Things You Should Know About Yourself
Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

5 Things You Should Know About Yourself

Guys, we made it to February! The first month of the year is already a memory. Isn’t that crazy how quickly that flew by? Most of the US battled back against freezing weather, some ridiculous snowfall totals, and this even occurred in the warm-weather states!

Yet here were are in February, throwing glances into March when spring will officially arrive in name if not in actual weather. But it’s getting there. Just in the past week or so I’ve noticed that it’s not dark at 5 p.m. anymore. Actually, at 6 p.m., I delight in the fact that there’s still a decent amount of light!

Friends, we have good reason to feel optimistic. Life might be tough right now. Maybe a lot is going on or you’re frustrated with finances (when are things ever going to get better?). Is there a health issue or a relationship one? Continue Reading

February 1, 2018