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Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

Love Yourself Enough

Loving yourself is probably one of the things furthest from your mind.

It feels selfish to even ponder the notion, doesn’t it?

We think of loving our children, our spouses, our parents, friends, but ourselves?

I mean, we shop for birthday and Christmas presents for everyone but ourselves.

If you need shoes and the kids need shoes, and there’s not enough in the budget for all those shoes, we both know the kids are getting the shoes, right?

Most of us put everyone else first and ourselves last. And a lot of the time that’s okay, if you ask me.

I’m happy to go to a different restaurant that’s maybe not my favorite because it’s my child’s favorite and it matters more to them and it’ll make them happy. That’s barely a sacrifice. I don’t consider it giving in. I consider it no big deal.

If my child needs shoes and I need shoes, my kid should get the shoes first. That’s how I operate.

Here’s what you need to know today:

Love yourself enough to put yourself first every now and then by grabbing a treat, taking a nap, making sure you’re cared for.

Love yourself enough to pursue your dreams. There’s no time like the present to do at least one thing (no matter small) each day to bring that dream closer to reality.

Love yourself enough to make time for exercise and hobbies you love.

Love yourself enough to go to the doctor when you need to, not to skip those appointments because you get busy. You know your body better than anyone so don’t ignore things that could be important.

Love yourself enough to have good friends you can call, text, and go out with every now and then, and share great laughs.

Love yourself enough to wait for a beautiful, selfless love.

Love yourself enough to make sure you’re respected in all your relationships, and that you and everyone else use appropriate boundaries.

Love yourself enough to love yourself the way you are and know that you’re worthy of incredible love.


You are beautiful,

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Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

Why You Should Be Selfish with Your Energy

Are you tired?

I’m tired.

Often. Like every day I’m tired no matter how much sleep I get. Or don’t get, because I’m in pain or too hot or too cold. Autoimmune disease is a real picnic, if you don’t already know.

But this isn’t a whine-fest. I’m just laying down a couple of facts about me and Crohn’s disease as the groundwork for my point. Continue Reading

If You Miss Your Dad on Father's Day

If You Miss Your Dad on Father’s Day

It’s that week again. The one where all the ads on your Facebook feed, on TV, all the shopping sites are all about dads, and the best gift ideas for Father’s Day. And it would be so much fun to shop for and choose the perfect gift for my Dad. If he were still alive.

I had to count back. This is the thirteenth Father’s Day my Dad hasn’t been here. In 2004, his last Father’s Day on Earth, he was in a hospital bed in his living room at home, on hospice. Thank God he wasn’t in terrible pain and we could spend the day with him.

We knew that without a healing miracle, this would be the last Father’s Day he’d be with us. We couldn’t take him out to dinner or buy him something extravagant because he couldn’t do or use anything like that. What would he do with a tie or one more mug now? Continue Reading

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Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

Getting Soul Rest in Chicago

Remember that soul rest I’ve been talking about? I’ve tapped into something important here. At least it’s become pretty important for me. I hope the idea has caught on for you as well, this Soul Rest. There’s something about it I’ve come to crave in just a short time.

I insisted on a collective soul rest and last month, and my family and I took off into the grand city of Chicago for a mini vacation. With teenagers and work schedules and school schedules and spring breaks that don’t match up now, it’s hard to get away as a family. But I was determined to make it happen.

So I did. Continue Reading