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5 blogs for when you need inspiration
Encouragement

5 Blogs for When You Need Inspiration

When I was feeling discouraged and tired recently, I was lounging around (maybe feeling a bit sorry for myself and the 3,472 doctors visits and tests I have coming up), and found some blogs I really enjoyed. For different reasons, they encouraged and inspired me. And gosh, who doesn’t need some of that these days?

These blogs have fantastic Instagram accounts too and since I’ve been spending a lot of time there lately, Instagram is actually where I discovered most of these blogs. I love a “pretty” blog. The aesthetics will draw me in at first blush. That’s why it’s so important to use nice photos on social media: pictures are seen before the words; if the picture is of poor quality, then readers might move on and miss out on your incredible words. Continue Reading

she's not really your friend
Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

But What If She’s Not Really Your Friend?

What is a true friend? Do you know? Do you have one? As I’ve observed some relationships the past few years – including my own – I’ve realized that the people we consider friends, aren’t always deserving of that title.

We blur lines between who says they’re our friend and who actually lives the role. I’ve seen this play out a lot with teenagers, especially. Not just my own teens, but my friends’ children as well.

I see grown women and teen boys and girls want so much to have friends that they will accept people as “friends” when they act like anything but what a true friend should act like. Continue Reading

love yourself enough. woman smiling in meadow of flowers
Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

Love Yourself Enough

Loving yourself is probably one of the things furthest from your mind.

It feels selfish to even ponder the notion, doesn’t it?

We think of loving our children, our spouses, our parents, friends, but ourselves?

I mean, we shop for birthday and Christmas presents for everyone but ourselves.

If you need shoes and the kids need shoes, and there’s not enough in the budget for all those shoes, we both know the kids are getting the shoes, right?

Most of us put everyone else first and ourselves last. And a lot of the time that’s okay, if you ask me.

I’m happy to go to a different restaurant that’s maybe not my favorite because it’s my child’s favorite and it matters more to them and it’ll make them happy. That’s barely a sacrifice. I don’t consider it giving in. I consider it no big deal.

If my child needs shoes and I need shoes, my kid should get the shoes first. That’s how I operate.

Here’s what you need to know today:

Love yourself enough to put yourself first every now and then by grabbing a treat, taking a nap, making sure you’re cared for.

Love yourself enough to pursue your dreams. There’s no time like the present to do at least one thing (no matter small) each day to bring that dream closer to reality.

Love yourself enough to make time for exercise and hobbies you love.

Love yourself enough to go to the doctor when you need to, not to skip those appointments because you get busy. You know your body better than anyone so don’t ignore things that could be important.

Love yourself enough to have good friends you can call, text, and go out with every now and then, and share great laughs.

Love yourself enough to wait for a beautiful, selfless love.

Love yourself enough to make sure you’re respected in all your relationships, and that you and everyone else use appropriate boundaries.

Love yourself enough to love yourself the way you are and know that you’re worthy of incredible love.

 

You are beautiful,

signature Melanie in aqua color

turquoise table in woods. be selfish with your energy
Abuse and Self Care, Encouragement

Why You Should Be Selfish with Your Energy

Are you tired?

I’m tired.

Often. Like every day I’m tired no matter how much sleep I get. Or don’t get, because I’m in pain or too hot or too cold. Autoimmune disease is a real picnic, if you don’t already know.

But this isn’t a whine-fest. I’m just laying down a couple of facts about me and Crohn’s disease as the groundwork for my point. Continue Reading