What to Do When You've Got the Blues
Encouragement, Health

What to Do When You’ve Got the Blues

Those long, cold days of winter are usually what really get me. When you’ve got the blues, sometimes it just feels like you’re sinking. You long for a sunny beach and a healthy dose of vitamin D to pull you out.

Lately, I’ve had the blues and (thankfully) it’s nowhere near winter.  I’ve been watching the news, like most of you have, and it’s been painful, disheartening, frightening. Our beautiful ally France has suffered immeasurably…again. Our country is suffering too, fighting against itself and tensions are higher and hate more prevalent than in any other time since I’ve been on this earth. I’ve had some extra stress and a super busy schedule (not a bad thing) that hasn’t allowed me much time to write and I need to.

Thanks to Crohn’s, I’ve had increased pain and too little sleep, and if you know anything about autoimmune disease, then you know that we need our sleep. The “anniversaries” of both my parents’ deaths loom a few weeks ahead. Let’s not forget hormone fluxes. (My favorites! Buckle up, 30-somethings. This is a super fun element of the otherwise empowering 40’s).

Add up these circumstances and I get why I’m feeling mucky. I try to be optimistic. I try to always encourage and never discourage. But as we all do, I have my days too. You know the ones: you feel like yuck, question whether anything you do makes a difference, wonder if you’re good enough and all that.


Then what?

Call a friend: In fact, in the depths of singing the blues, my best friend actually called me.  She gave me some perspective on things. We had a great talk. She gets me and understood what I was feeling. She actually inspired this post because I took her advice, did some stuff, and felt better for it.

Pray: Like Jen said, “get on your knees and pray.” She generously sent me some screenshots of prayers that have helped her. I silently wished that getting on my knees and praying was always my Plan A. The truth is, worry, anxiety and sometimes even panic are my Plan A and then I pray. I want prayer and giving it over to God to be my automatic plan of action.

Pamper Yourself: Also a suggestion from Jen. Do something special for yourself. Whether it’s coffee with a friend, just going in your bedroom for half an hour and listening to music and reading (her specific suggestion for me to do immediately), or a spa day, do something that’s just for you, to decompress and get your mind off things and find some peace.

Count Your Blessings: This is what makes me feel better. I literally start naming them, sometimes out loud. Family, friends, abilities, our home, jobs, freedom. Start praying for others’ needs too.  It reminds you that there are good things and people in your life.

Get Out of Dodge: Take a vacation. Or a staycation. Whatever falls within your means of time and finances, do that. If you can only spare an afternoon, go. This is what I did. And I didn’t want to really. It felt like too much energy to go meet my best friend for the day. Even though I really wanted to, I just felt like such a sloth (no offense to sloths. They’re weirdly cute, deliberate creatures). But, being the true friend she is, she didn’t accept that and she pushed me a little. She made pedicure appointments for us and away we went, meeting in the middle between our separate towns and it was glorious. Just two gals eating, shopping and being pampered. (Sidebar: We did it on a budget. We’ve got teenagers! We had no choice.)


Maybe alone time is what you crave. Take a book and sit on the beach. Go away for a weekend alone. Shut off your phone and walk away from the social media mania. Unplug.

If you can’t shake these blues or you start feeling worse, please call your doctor and express this. He or she will help you in whatever way you need, so please let them.

If you’re like me, however, and you get the periodic doldrums that eventually lift, call your dear friend. Pray. Laugh. Unplug. Recharge. And restore.

Hang in there,

signature Melanie in aqua color

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  • Reply Lori Wildenberg July 18, 2016 at 10:22 am

    Thanks Melanie. It helps to have some ideas to fall back on when i feel as if I want to hole up in my office due to feelings of defeat or sadness. For me hiking with my dog while with God or getting together with a friend, or helping someone else are the best anecdotes for the blues.
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  • Reply Traci@tracesoffaith July 18, 2016 at 5:02 pm

    These things are so intentional. We have to make ourselves do them sometimes but they help. I’m so sorry you speak from such experience. Chronic pain is awful! I also find that I make myself feel better when I do for someone else. It takes the focus off me. A good list Melanie!
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  • Reply Clare Speer July 18, 2016 at 5:55 pm

    Wow – I’ve been fighting the blues,too!!! This post really spoke to me – getting a little fresh air helps, getting out with a few girlfriends – vacation is wonderful – but if timing and/or money isn’t right then I usually take a day trip!

    • Reply melaniespickett@gmail.com July 31, 2016 at 4:18 pm

      Clare, a day trip is a great idea! Just getting out for a few hours with my best friend was very refreshing!

  • Reply Nikki July 17, 2017 at 11:19 am

    I really needed this, thank you so much for sharing these tips! 🙂


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