Every morning I make oatmeal for my husband to take to work with him. He’s a bit of a health food guy. He has a specific combination he prefers: dried oatmeal, milled flax seed, cinnamon, a dash of sugar, coconut milk, and nuts.
A few mornings ago I went to the pantry for the walnuts. I knew they were there; I’d just purchased a new bag. I stood peering at the shelves knowing those nuts were in there. They had to be. But I couldn’t see them. Seriously. Where were those nuts?!
Your marriage will have challenges. If you have a supportive husband who is a true partner, those problems are a lot more tolerable and life is a lot less stressful.
And that’s just beginning of what will be better if you choose a mate wisely.
Don’t be like me in my first marriage. I had warnings in our dating life. True enough, I didn’t really catch on to what the issues were harbingers of. I thought he was just wounded from a painful childhood and he’d heal from that (false). I thought that I could fix his issues (false, false, and even more false). I just didn’t realize. So I married him.
When I was grieving and beginning the (long) healing process after my first marriage ended so traumatically, I needed people. There were different people who would have different strengths and help us in various capacities.
There are five roles filled by five very different people. And they’ll be the ones who help you heal too.